Dear sona:

You bring a good point: after four years of therapy, you shouldn’t be in the same state as you were at the beginning of therapy: being distressed every time you see him and taking a couple of days to reset.

Attachment to a person who listens to you with empathy is understandable. Natural. Therapists are trained to work with this attachment that is part of the process.

What improvement did you experience since the beginning of therapy? Did your relationships with family members change as a result? Do you view them differently than before? Did you make new relationships since the beginning of therapy, an intimate one?

anita