Dear annema:

Good idea to increase tunnel vision and see the bigger picture.

Since I started my Healing Path I experienced lots of emotional pain and I still do. Along the way I asked myself countless times: what’s the point of going through this healing if I still experience pain. Over time I became calmer but didn’t notice. The changes are very slow and very gradual. Somehow when you make good choices for yourself, choices that fit reality (and not fantasy), that kind of pain is a different kind of pain. There is hope at the end of the tunnel when you see reality as is and respond accordingly. On the other hand when you hang on fantasy, the pain is the same, no light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes you feel better when he said “the right things” and then back to the pain when he didn’t follow through with action.

Reality pain takes you somewhere better. Fantasy pain keeps you stuck on and on and on.

Please do post anytime.

anita