Dear Karene:

In the post above you wrote: “I always remember mum kind of pushing my body (as a young age) to hurry up and do things – for instance grabbing my hands and showing me how to do stuff or pushing me into directions- I was a very insecure child and she would get a bit fed up with me being a bit slow then.”

You figured your mother pushed you to hurry up because you were slow. No, no… you were not slow, your mother was too fast, anxious, jittery. This is what children do: she pushed you to hurry up, so the Child Karen figures she is too slow while in reality there is something wrong with the mother, she is too anxious and too fast.

And you became insecure because she pushed you. You obsess on your body because your father didn’t pay attention to you but did pay attention to pornography.

There was nothing wrong with the little girl Karene.

anita