Dear bigglasses:

You described a difficult situation that is your life. A few things come to mind as first priority:

1) I bet having more children is heavily not on your mind, but if I was you, I would make it an absolute certainty that there will be no more children added to the family.

2) You saying shaming, rejecting words to your children is absolutely unacceptable. This kind of talk to your children must not happen again, no matter how you feel, and no matter what happens. Nothing excuses it. The damage to your children happens directly from such verbal/ emotional abuse, way more than moving a lot and life being not stable otherwise. Please let me know how you feel about this point and I will be glad to correspond with you till-the-end-of-times in efforts to stop this kind damage done to your children.

There is more in your post (and there is a newer thread), but the above two points are so important, that I need your response to these before I write more.

Hope to read from you soon:

anita