Dear helen123:

I am sorry you are unhappy and regretful.

If I was you, at 24, with my boyfriend and his parents insisted I came up with money for a big wedding, I wouldn’t have married the guy either. And if I gave money to the guy and his parents, as you did, and they never returned it, I wouldn’t like it.

It is night time for me and my thinking this whole evening is … weak. I would like to come back to your thread tomorrow morning. If you would like, you can share with me any information that can help me understand (tomorrow, in 10 hours or so from now) the reasons you think your relationships since (34-33, your age now?) didn’t work?

Can you pick up one relationship, the one that was better than the others, and describe the nature of communication, interactions, conversations… efforts: what was your part in getting closer to the man? What were his efforts?

anita