Dear foolinlove::

What you observed is that as a pattern of his behavior, he does not take responsibility for his actions and does not follow through. Instead he pretend like nothing happened and blames you. True, no one is perfect. But if you want to be wise-in-love (and not fool-in-love) you make good choices, choosing the … less imperfect. Imperfections here and there, sure, to be expected and accepted, but a pattern of imperfection, a repeating behavioral pattern that hurts you, to choose that is unwise.

You can’t fix it. It is not in your power. He has to want to fix it and he does not want to. Like you wrote, you are waiting for him and “not going anywhere”.

Going someplace, for you, would be treating yourself with love and respect and not settling for disrespect, excuses, someone wanting you to be fun, as if you were a toy. You are a human being, deserving to be treated with love and respect.

I hope you move on getting a job, moving out of your parents’ place and choose a loving, respectful future boyfriend for yourself!

Post anytime.

anita