Dear Ravi:

Like I wrote to you before, at the least you can be free from your previous … misunderstanding that you are responsible for the breakup of the three year old bond. You were very hard on yourself when you believed you were responsible. Now you know you were not. You know your feelings of love for her was not and is not a crime. Now you know for sure: you didn’t cause this.

I don’t see how you can overcome her strong upbringing and the whole Indian culture, especially while she lives at home and is only 20. she will have to experience some crisis, some loss of faith in her family and “betray” her upbringing.

Well, May is approaching and so is that big test. June will be after that. Post again, here, anytime.

Take care of yourself, be good to yourself, please.

anita