Hi,

May I ask are you one of those lovely people who just can’t say no when someone asks for a favor or help, in general… not just with this group? Cause I’ve been like that my whole life, and I still am. It makes me happy when I make someone happy, it’s as simple as that. I have never thought about karma, though I have to admit that in my life I have often found people helped me too, for no reason.

But there is one big problem with people like us… We often come across people who surely like to overstep their wellcome. We are ‘easy target’ to what someone likes to call ‘energetic vampires’, people who are egocentric and use every resource they have to move forward, or just to find easy outlet of their problems. They have 6th sense when it comes to people like us. I remember, I had a cousin calling me 5 times a day, bothering me with every trivial problem she had for hours, cause she knew I’d always pick up the phone and I’d always listen. I also had an ‘energetic vampire’ that was one of my best friends in highschool. I always ended up with headaches and negative energy after talking with them, and was useless to me or other people.

For your own good, you have to learn to identify these people in your life. It’s not easy, but in time you’ll also develop 6th sense for them, too. As someone who is kind and gives good energy to other people, you’ll also have to learn to protect yourself, cause if you don’t, you’ll be useless to yourself, or to other people who’d really need your help. You have to take care…

i don’t know the details of your problem, but it seems that if this situations bothers you, help as much as your real common sense tells you it’s necessary, but if you think that they’ll survive without your 24/7 support, do not dwell to put some boundaries. You can make a strategy… call them first twice a week, than once a week… than once in 10 days.. and then just fade away :). In the meantime say you are busy and that you’d call back… And call back according to this strategy. Be aware that they might say something bad, but let it not bother you.

It also seems to me that you are very spiritual, and if you feel like your body or space are filled up with negative energy, there are many ways you can clear the space from it, before you start your meditation. Salt, bells, burning sage, holly water are often used as tools for clearing up negative energy, you might try it. I felt amazing difference once I started clearing the space before proceeding with meditation or prayer…

I wish you all the best, and do not collect more bad karma by blaming yourself about something that is not your fault. You have the right to be happy and to serve for your own good, too…