Dear Anita:

We agree to separate but I feel so guilty and bad about myself for what I did. He keeps telling me that all the bad bahavior that he did or his depression is due to what I did. He said I’m not the kind of person that one can get married with because I’m unable to be satisfied and I’m not loyal. I’m a serial cheater.

I become so attached to what he said and let it defines me. I always try reflections and I always wanna improve myself. But many people suggest that these kinds of personality traits are developed and unable to change. I feel weak and no confidence in myself that even my future relationships will be failures. I’m afraid my flaws cannot be changed.

I think I better stay single until I become a better version of myself. Please give me advice on how to do it.

Thanks
Ameliau