Hi, I think my user name says it all, I am also “trying” to go no contact with a “friend” who was “more than a friend” but it was a very ambiguous relationship at best. He was a rock star, I was star struck, I got sucked in, it lasted for almost 4 years, and then we ‘stayed friends” i.e. stayed in touch until the shoe dropped, ON MY BIRTHDAY!!!I swear its been flying monkeys ever since. I haven’t contacted him in a couple of weeks, and I keep telling myself when I wake up in the morning “today is another day” so that is how I choose to keep going.
You mentioned “a song’ got you back in his clutches, I have come to see music as some kind of magic that works on the soul and like the double edged sword it is used for good or ill……I chose to delete his whole music catalogue from my library, and later reimported some of the albums I found too hard to live without, but then decided for my emotional safety in this vulnerable time to keep all his solo works as well as the band that brought him to prominence off my IPhone so I don’t have to be reminded about “us” or what we had (or didn’t) ….
It is hard and there are setbacks but hang in there its not impossible. They want your light, these energy vampires, all of them, if we weren’t already “all that” they wouldn’t be drawn to us in the first place. Stay strong, and it gets better….I love that I found this group on the day I decided that I am now an ex and not in an ongoing relationship.
Peace <3