Dear XenopusTex:

The “complete slap in the face after attempting to reach out in love and trust” is what I believe you experienced as a child reaching out to the adult/s in your young life, reaching out with love and trust but receiving hate instead, your trust and innocent having been betrayed by them.

This is what I meant by what I wrote in the last post to you: “The pain is already there.”

About the notion that “any woman with a pulse can find a man out here” and ” This also makes me nervous about those who have not already found a guy”-

What if what most men are attracted by is what is flashy: dress, elegance, mannerisms, formal education perhaps and the women who are left are … of the lesser qualities (?): honest, reliable, trustworthy, kind???

anita