Dear selkied:

You wrote that as a child you preferred reading to being with people. You are reading this very post right now, online. You can meet men on a respectable online dating site. When men post to you, you read. The words on the screen will not jump at you and if you are uncomfortable with what you read, you can click the screen away.

If a particular man is respectful toward you and not abusive in any way, post after post, you can choose to meet him in person in a coffee place in the daytime. It is minimum risk since you can leave at any time. If there is disrespect of any kind- leave.

I think it is a good idea: what do you think?

anita