Dear savannah1:

The thing is he may be aware of something important that you are not aware of, just as you are aware of an important issue that he is not well aware of. He reads to me like a good person, from what you shared. So I hope this works out- and do post here anytime you need my thoughts, feedback, suggestions.

In trusting him, do not expect him to be perfect, a saint of some sorts. He can’t help but being human. Expecting him to be imperfect gives you the freedom to be which you can’t help but be yourself: imperfect.

At times you too say or do things that don’t perfectly fit what you said before. We can’t have a perfect memory for all that we say, run it all through a computer program that emits a siren for any inconsistency. This is not how the human brain operates, not his and not yours.

There will be issues but if he is a decent man, as he seems to be, then you and him can work it out, communicate, be flexible enough to allow minor inconsistencies. Of course, because of your understandable trust issues, a minor inconsistency may seems major, so don’t automatically react to something “major” when it may not be major. Take your time to calm down first, relax and wait for that siren to be silent. Then think- and do post here anytime.

anita