Dear CMI:

You are making a good point I didn’t think about: a person’s problems can begin showing only after intimacy has already been established. So as a friend she may act okay, calm, reliable but once intimate, then the trouble for her starts. Good point. Maybe part of knowing a potential partner would be to ask her about her past relationships… or better, maybe, hear what she has to say about others’ intimate relationships, maybe one portrayed in a movie, comments she makes can be conversation starters for you.

anita