Dear sonyablade:

You are welcome. You can tell your boyfriend something like this (I am using your posts here):

“I love you. This is the best relationship I ever had. I love you and sometimes I am afraid to lose you, to lose you to someone prettier than me. I imagine you with a prettier woman and it hurts a lot. You did nothing to make me scared, I was scared before I met you. ”

I wouldn’t mention his ex girlfriend at this point because it may lead to you asking him questions about her leading to more questions and that will be a problem: it will add a burden for him AND it will not unburden you.

After you tell him the above, wait and see if he says something. He may not know what to say and therefore say nothing. Then let it be for now. If he says something comforting, that will be excellent.

If you do talk to him post here with an update and I, for one, will be glad to reply further.

Post anytime.

anita