Dear Ashley:

What a horrid experience you experienced.

You asked: “Besides the general advice I tend to get (meditation, exercise, therapy) what can I do to heal from the pain this situation has caused me?”

To actually practice any one of the above. Psychotherapy with a competent, empathetic therapist would be first on my list. I would look for a therapist, make an appointment for a free consultation, if available. Maybe there is low or no cost therapy available from agencies that reach out to abused women- and you are still fresh from such.

Perhaps attend a support group for abused women (past and present).

Over time, with healing, you will get to a point where you will trust yourself to be able to evaluate a man correctly before getting emotionally invested. Correct evaluation of the man and his ability and willingness to have a healthy relationship will give you the safety and confidence you need.

Take good care of yourself.

anita