Dear sugarhut:

In your previous (first post) on this website, you wrote: “When he comes back I feel normal again like when I get rid of him I don’t feel normal in myself and can’t eat etc.”

This life with him, as miserable as it is, feels normal for you, comfortable. Life with him is somehow comforting to you.

Life without him, without the misery, feels abnormal, uncomfortable. Life without him, so far, has been distressing. The title of your thread is “Emotional abuse and why can’t I let go”- I suppose you haven’t been able to let go because living without him was so distressing that you don’t want to experience that distress again. Somehow the distress of living with him is less than the distress of living without him.

I am stuck at the moment in this predicament: how to end a distressing situation when ending it brings more distress? Can you help me out with this?

anita