@jim,

Thank you so much. I’ll accept that her and I do not have the same expectations anymore. While she wants me to stay with her and be taken care of by her, I know it may just be because she is projecting her own needs on me: she is quite needy emotionally, and may think that I have the same needs. In fact I know I get deep satisfaction from success in academics, in work and in my interactions with friends and family. Her love was something I cherished and grateful for, but not something I need in order to move on in life.

Thank you for giving me the advice from your own experience. I hope it will eventually be proved that ‘limiting/ending contact with this person is the only way you can heal and move forward. That will allow your heart to be open to a healthy love and not the part-time affections you are getting now. It is hard at first but worth it in the long run as I gratefully found out.’

Charlotte