Dear Ganesha87:

In my last post to you I referred to your ex boyfriend as your boyfriend, not because I didn’t thoroughly read your post and misunderstood the time lines, but because I did read and as far as I can tell he is still your boyfriend. For as long as you are intimately involved, physically and emotionally.. and still have the same issues as before, he is still your boyfriend.

I understand that you removed the title and you decided on “no strings attached”- but that was the intent, not the practice as I read it.

You repeated that he is a “complex” person. You suggested that he is aware of the issues from his childhood that shaped him but is not willing to do the work to heal from those injuries.

That is quite common, way more common than being somewhat aware of the issues and doing the healing work. I wonder what you mean by “complex”?

anita