I came to the same conclusion that you arrived above- that my friend will talk negatively about me when with others. The obeying situation is little confusing, I must agree. To make things clear ot at least try my friend has friends that I don’t apporve of and he/she is still with them. He/she talks bad about them too but only in my presence , not theirs. We had an agreement which was – my friend spending some time with that company for some time and in this time I cannot contact him because of them and my friend told me not to. Anyway, something happened and for God only knows why my friend tried to contact me during the time with his/ her friends I don’t approve of and it happened that way deactivated my account via which my friend was seeking/ anyway, he/she had other social account to reach me/me and now she/he will gnorant just like my family and won’t be like she/he was before. So I think I got something wrong and my friedn is not willing to share what was it and that really can get me angry and it si not like I did not try to conntact him/her after that time.

Given my family convesrastions situation you can understand how much i need a friend like the one I descpribed my friedns was before these events. And now there is something wrong and I asm thinking that the kind and sweet nature of my friend was only a facade for God know what. But the other thing is- i feel that I cannot communicate with my friedns while I am with my friend just because he/she is jealous, yet he/she can do whatever he/she wants and the blame will be in me again.