Thank you for your response, Anita.
Yes, that is what I texted him.

In its entirety I said:

“As I said, I did get your text. It said the word ‘sorry.’ Yet…

It deflected the issue & instead focused on why you forgive me. You know better. More importantly, I know better. I am a grown ass woman, [redacted], and I have no tolerance for that.

Being angry is OK. Emotions are OK. Abuse is not OK. 4:38 PM
My issue isn’t with anything other than your choice to direct anger at me. “Look at me, you fucking coward.” [a note: those are words he used at me during his angry tirade] Your text said, “It’s ok, maybe you didn’t notice you …” Not one mention of verbal lashing.

I am trying to express it in kindness, but I have to be firm to be kind to my own boundaries, too. Anger is suffering, and I am sorry that you suffer. I don’t want to also suffer.”

I appreciate your taking the time to respond.