Dear Sam:

I understand the “blind trust” one has in a parent. Very much so. It is natural: a child- even as an adult- does not naturally consider the parent may not be trustworthy. A child needs the parent to be trustworthy so to feel safe being under the power of the parent.

If he has an “age-related memory issue or… Alzheimer”- feel free ( I hope) to use this handicap to get your money back- that would be ethically justifiable!

And if his memory is fine, it means he is not yet afraid of you, only cautious in the areas you confronted him. And then, maybe it will make sense to confront him about the money and demand he gives it back to you. By confronting him, this time, I don’t mean to argue with him, as such will be pointless. I mean to firmly assert yourself with him, telling him exactly what you need him to do.

If you are not afraid of him maiming or killing you, and if you believe he showed some fear of you in areas you already confronted him, extend your confrontation to the money, in much the same way.

anita