I have been looking at this from all angles (I think), the neurological pathway side (neurons that wire together fire together) (the more we repeat a neural pathway the stronger and more dominant it becomes in the concious mind) and the spiritual side (yes I have always been guided to spiritual books like Paulo Cohello and The Power of Now and started Transcendental Meditation from the age of 14) (and I joined the church in 2008 because of the crisis I had but now only attend church now and again), I have come to the conclusion that my entire focus needs to be my daughter – obviously I don’t want to mould her like a piece of clay into what I think she SHOULD (hate that word) be, but I want to try and use all my anguish and mistakes to guide her, so that hopefully she will not make the same mistakes as I have, but therein lies the paradox – we read in the Bible for instance that it’s only by ‘Trials by Fire’ and ‘Tests’ that we are purified and made as gold. All the painful experiences I’ve had have made me more ‘impervious’ to pain than before, but at the same time I don’t want my daughter to go through the things I have, but then I want her to be a strong confident and balanced person who will make a positive contribution to society, people and the world as a whole, in her own way. From an astrological point of view, I used to very much believe in the Zodiac, and when I read about my own star sign (Pisces) I was shocked at how accurate the personality profile matched my actual personality (I’m pretty much a classic one). I actually used to wish I could escape from it all and become a Monk in a Tibetan monastery, and although I can see the positive benefits of it (I have also been reading a book called The Way of Zen which has been interesting) I am a man of The West and feel that I am supposed to be contributing rather than sitting in the mountains in contemplation, although I can see how tremendously beneficial that would be, but I do have responsibilities here that I can’t just walk away from. Thank you all for your advice.