Your first post asked for perspective, and although the others have helped you with that I think, I feel so strongly I can’t help but add my perspective: “Holy crap, get away from him! And get a new therapist!”

That baby talk thing is creepy as f***. Stop faking a positive response to it. Calling you every couple of hours to tell you how lonely and sad he is? What is he thinking? And he’s interfering with your career?

OK, so you’re in a bind with regards to your living situation. Do you know for a fact your family wouldn’t support you? Could it be, for example, that your mother’s sister never got on with your father but didn’t let on because of faaamily, but would put you up if you explained the situation? I don’t know, I just feel like you have very strong grounds to want to move out, and reasonable people would help you. It may be worth arranging some time with one or two of your extended family members to have a talk and feel them out.

If you find yourself self-sabotaging, just be like, “Oh, look. I’m sabotaging myself again.” And then you pick up the pieces and try again. Don’t be intimidated by your self-sabotaging self. Remind yourself of the freedom and sanity you stand to gain, and keep trying.

Good luck, man.