Okay. I will write down the reasons why I feel that he is my person.

First is his upbringing and background. He was brought in Islamic family yet since he was young, he rebelled against the idea of Islam and religion in general. Now he is the only one Non-Muslim in his family or family friends. He can’t believe the idea of God. He has been very strong about his beliefs. I am from a strong Therevada Buddhist family and still am a Buddhist. I had always been the seeker of truth and never believe the idea of God (Buddhism rebutt the existence of God). We got closer together because of our spiritual beliefs. He himself is a seeker of truth and he likes the idea of Buddhism much more than any religions out there. His traumatic childhood and his feelings of loneliness and isolation, I completely understand him. I understand his reasons for his beliefs because I feel the same way too. The fact that he is interested in the same spirituality as me is also a very mind blowing factor.

Second is our strengths and weaknesses complement each other. He is not an optimistic person. Whereas I have a more positive view on life. But I can be very dreamy and idealistic while he is more logical, rational and realistic. This is not incompatibility because we never fought over it. Rather our differences made us a very strong team when we were together. He felt down and sad easily from setbacks due to his pessimistic nature and I was always there encouraging him with positive words. When I was impulsive and reckless regarding my relationships with my parents, he was there to rationalise the situation for me wjen I was simply overwhelmed with emotions.

Another thing is intuition or gut feeling or whatever. I have slept (non-sexual) with my lovers before. When they cuddled with me or when I was in their arms, I never felt right. It felt wrong to wake up in their arms or to fall asleep in their arms. With my recent ex, it was not like that at all. Every morning I woke up beside him was burst of happiness welling up inside me. When we fall asleep together, it is just peaceful. In his company, I just feel a strong sense of belonging and rightness and peace. The only emotion I can recall is peace. Not even passionate though we have our passionate moments. Most of the time is just this sense of peace and calmity washing over us. Never felt so comfortable in another human being presence. Till now, we are no longer in contact yet my gut instincts tell me that he is not going to be gone like that in my life. Our connection is very strong. We get each other and it is crazy to even be saying this.

And I dun think I am the only feeling this because when he was here, he told me in his words that I feel like his soulmate and sometimes he would say things like “I feel like I am home when I am with you” (after not seeing each other for a few days). I felt his love. I felt his genuinity.

But despite all the greatness and my feelings, I want to focus my attention on something else hence I need to get over this. I feel that if he is meant to be my soulmate or the love of my life, he would eventually find his way home. Yeah thanks for reading. I am having a hard time going through this break up because this relationship has been one of the best things happened to me.

Fun fact:
When we first met during orientation at my university, I immediately noticed him and found him intriguing. It was not because I found him good looking (though he is but he is not the conventional good looking). It was more of his presence and how he held himself. I found him interesting. He said he noticed me too. He wanted to get to know me better. But during orientation, we were in different groups so we didn’t have opportunities to talk. And he kind of liked me since the first semester but I was that time very much not interested in dating and only saw him as a Friend ( I didn’t know that he liked me at all)

• This reply was modified 8 years ago by Elvia Carter.