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Dear Audrey,
Forget the past issues and the cultural reasons – if they care enough, they will revert properly whether you are with them or not. It doesn’t have to be a big text, a big call – the little efforts are enough.
Guys are generally not big on texting or talking long on phone but I can tell you, if the girl is really important to them, they will have that basic curtesy to atleast answer her call, if not text. Sometimes people do get busy and the communication is slow but that implicit understanding is there that okay, he is busy and he will get back to me when it’s possible.
But in your case he vanishes and doesn’t revert ever. Anyone in your place would feel bad – you don’t need to be a 9 year old with abandonment issues to feel bad, your reaction is just like every person out there. He needs to work on his behaviour and be more considerate, especially to his own girlfriend.
Do you two have that understanding?
Regards,
Nina