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Thank you Nina, that’s helpful to hear your story. How long did it take for your anxiety to subside once you stopped trying to control it? I guess this is what I’m doing by shutting my phone off. Baby steps. It’s a useful strategy to calm myself for now.
I told him I absolutely don’t need to talk to him everyday, a text here and there is nice but if he’s too busy some days that’s okay. Still, I need to know that if I reach out, he will reach back. I will keep working on my patience.
I wish he would respect ground rules. It seems like he never will though. He wants me to just understand him, which is fine to a certain extent, but I also need to be understood and respected. I hope we can overcome this.