Dear Mike,

Who knows, maybe this is oddly another chance for both of you to come closer when things have reached a real low point?

She is at a point grappling with not being able to have children easily – for a woman, that is devastating to say the least. You didn’t support her the way a spouse should during the time and indulged more in computer games. She didnt communicate her misery either and succumbed to support in a maladaptive way – infidelty.

Regarding swearing on her grandpa, I hope he is well and that gosh, she must have been really a mess to lie like that…doesn’t sound like someone with a record of being a bad partner in the past and seems like a caring person in reality.

Both of you may benefit greatly from couples therapy to work out the above issues – learn wats to be better partners in a marriage. It’s been 2 years – still early – you want to be with her still…see this as a time when one of you has to stay strong to save the marriage and move forward.

I also have a suggestion regarding PCOS – I am not sure which age group your spouse is in right now but weight management, proper medication, hormone balancing foods are immensely helpful. I have heard about a natural remedy called vitex too though i do not have first hand experience with this.

It is difficult to conceive but not impossible especially if her age group isn’t too much on the older scale. It would be helpful if she had someone by her side to find a solution. However, that part of course is for the future when things are figured out.

The question though is – are you willing to have a future with her and have both of you fight through this difficult time?

Regards
Nina