Dear Emma,

Indeed your friends and family are right about this one – time is the best healer and there is no alternative to it.

The body is so oddly linked to our mental state and vice versa. I am really sorry about the way things didnt work out with this guy. He was probably in some rebound phase and happened to meet you at that point.

Right now, though you probably don’t feel like eating, please eat sometimes and request a family member or friend to follow up with you sometimes. Your spirits will be worse if your body is languishing. I remember once when I lost about 12 pounds in a month after a break up (long relationship ended in an awful way) – gosh I was so depressed and didn’t even realise it…just used to eat once a day and work like a maniac, never cried once…then went back home and my mom was shocked. I just looked horrible and could barely eat – i have always been a happy eater all my life. Then I realised the damage I had done to my body and skin while trying to escape the bad feelings. It took a while though to get over things but it was worth it. Things do get better.

Please reach out to your friends and family at this point. Sometimes they won’t say very helpful things but it would be good to just be with them, spend time with them – you have had way too much stress going on. It’s time you took it a bit easy on yourself.

I know I haven’t been of great help, I don’t have any insights or advice to offer – just wanna say I understand how awful it’s been and anyone in your place would feel messed up inside. You are not alone in this.

Please do post again.

Regards,
Nina