Dear cel639:

You wrote that you “can definitely see why it (continuing to live with your ex) could impede both of our healing”-

First, worry about your healing only- his healing is for him to think about and evaluate. You wrote that you broke up probably because you got lost in the relationship- well, don’t get lost now. His healing is his business, not yours. Your healing is your business.

Reads to me like it is a good idea to continue to live with him, in the same house, at the moment. After all you are not employed yet. When you are employed, then you can consider living away.

Focus on your life, making it better. That will serve you and it is your best chance of possibly resuming a relationship with him in the future. Your best chance is to not function the way you did before, being focused on him, but to function differently: focus on you, on your well being, your life getting better and better.

anita