Dear debbie79:

I posted the above before I saw your last note to me.

You used the adjective “Perfect” to describe this relationship (in your original post, perfect with a capital P).

I think you are mourning the loss of a Perfection that never was, hopes and dreams… You are also hurting over a real emotional attachment you developed for this man, the real separation of the man you loved/ the object of your attachment.

Listen to calming music, take a hot bath, have a hot herbal tea… calm yourself. Take care of yourself and take it a moment, hour at a time. This is difficult and will be difficult for a while.

I will be going to bed in a few moments after I post this. If you posted since my last post, I will answer. If not, I will be at the computer in about twelve hours.

Take best possible care of yourself. Over time, your thinking will be clear, and you will feel better soon enough, maybe tomorrow.

anita