Dear Harry:

I think that maybe you felt relatively safe when she had a boyfriend- there was nothing for you to do, but love her safely from afar. But since she is available again, now you are no longer safe to love her, because now there are things-to-do, ask her for a date, plan on maybe have a relationship with her. Now there is the fear of rejection that wasn’t there before, and now there are the fears of… how to be a boyfriend in what you call a “proper relationship” for the first time in your young life.

If I am correct, then it is possible that the reason your infatuation feelings are gone- for now- is because you are afraid. To feel infatuation you have to be relaxed enough, and being afraid doesn’t allow for the relaxation requires to daydream about love, to feel those gentle loving feelings.

What do you think?

anita