Hi everyone,

Thought I’d give an update since the original post, I always enjoy reading the “what ended up happening?”

Hubby and I are still married and are now happily living together. We have not had 1 single problem for over a year now. It was hard but he realized that his mother was a poisonous snake (and that is me saying it in a nice way), his own decision was to cut all contact with her over a year ago. We decided to get away and go on vacation at the end of 2015, I kindly asked him to not tell anyone in his family that we were going on vacation and WHEN we were going. He promised me it would be fine and decided to tell them…as soon as we get to the Caribbean, his mom starts bombarding with various provocations and things greatly blow up. I am not a fortune teller and I did not lie to him, but I knew his mom was going to try to destroy the “amends” vacation we went on. I was searching for flights to go back home early from vacation, that is how bad it was. I don’t know what happened in his head but he completely changed, he stood up for me for the first time, told her to not address me the way she does when talking to him, to leave us alone, etc.

There has not been 1 night, since we came back from vacation, that we went to bed feeling angry or upset with each other, and no, I am not exaggerating when I say that.

His aunt knows better than to ask about me and same with his grandma. He still talks to them, I don’t have a problem with this. He did say that he would never go over for dinner unless he brings me too. This is his way of turning the table on them now. They are not welcome in our home as I am sure I am not welcome in his aunt’s boyfriend’s home either (his mom and grandma live in Europe).

No kids yet, but we have been talking and hope to start trying for our first sometime this summer. He was very supportive of my decision to complete a 2nd program of post secondary education and I have been supportive in all his business aspirations. We truly function well together.

It would be nice to eventually make amends with his mom, aunt, and grandma, but it really is not a concern for me. With multiple failed marriages amongst those 3 women, I am not surprised that they don’t get along with me who tries to the max to always fix things and never give up. yes, it is a pity my children will not be around those 3 women, but they have themselves to thank for that. My husband doesn’t have anything to say about this because, he himself admitted that his mother was trying to destroy our marriage so why should a snake like that be around the children of that marriage? Logical reasoning, no math required.

I once again thank everyone for their input and support, I know I didn’t do as @kornfield (jock) said but I never give up things I deserve easy. Fight for what you want and deserve in life. As I always say, If you can’t make yourself happy, you can’t expect someone else to be able to 🙂