Hey,

I wanted to elaborate the previous post a bit more.

See here is the thing-

1) Your profession as a psychotherapist and better job opportunities abroad

2) Falling in love 3 months ago

3) Experiencing things outside your comfort zone.

Truth be said, it’s only been 3 months. You need to know this person better. One way is to stay back and date him. Maybe it works, maybe it doesn’t. However there is no 100% guarantee.

Similarly, if you leave home and enter a long distance relationship, you will face challenges early on, see the world and also develop professionally.

Whether the relationship works or not is something we can’t be sure in both cases.

The only advantage of second case is you will have more life experience and job opportunities at hand.

You are already thinking like if he will follow you or not, what will he do – if the love is so strong, he will follow you to any damn corner of the earth and support you through thick and thin.

A friend of mine recently married a guy she had been dating for last 7 years. He had left the country for studies and work and they stayed together. Before he left, they dated in person for a few months only. It was hard no doubt but they really wanted to be together. They both have established themselves and are keen on raising a family now.

Everyone has a different story though. See the variety in the last 2 posts only.

Have you ever questioned your family’s wishes towards you? For someone to become part of your family in the future, you need to be sure if they are indeed a good fit. This doesn’t mean seeing them as you want to see them. It means seeing them when the going gets tough.

Say he had better options outside, would you stop him because of your own insecurities or would you want him to be happy, have his dream job?

In the end, whatever you do, please do it taking into consideration what you actually want. Don’t do it because you are doutful whether he will stay or leave.

Really ask yourself what you want and whether you are willing to face the consequences that come.

Regards
Nina