IMHO, I would suggest that you need to take some time and listen to your own heart. I guess you are in dilemma now, but don’t rush to decide whether to move on without her or maintain your soulmate relationship (romance + friendship) with her, you will regret later if you take the wrong move.

May I know that you are not into her because you honestly don’t feel any romantic interest on her as she does or because you feel guilty to break someone’s marriage? If it is because you honestly don’t feel any romantic interest on her then you should assert that you are not romantically into her. You should now try your best to stop further progressing your soulmate relationship with her, but not to end it with her. In other words, you can maintain your current soulmate relationship with her, meanwhile you should try to persuade her that both of you can’t further progress to bf/gf relationship. Of course, this needs some time as she may feel upset or depressed in this stage. It is also your responsibility to comfort her in this stage.

However, if you are not into her because you feel guilty of breaking someone’s marriage, then you are lying or concealing not only to yourself, but also to her, to her family especially her husband and children, as well as God. You and her will eventually commit a true sin because both of you have been stealthily flirting with each other without the knowledge of her family members. If you really mean yourself from a conservative background, you should do something now. Either to take full responsibility to propose your love to her and get her out of current unhappy marriage, or END your current soulmate relationship with her now before it is too late. Things can really go badly such as committing suicide (as you mentioned that she is an emotional person and has history of abuse) or when her family find out that you have some affair going on with her. I might sound harsh on this, but I just want to let you know that you should take the correct move to handle this matter.

Thanks and Regards.

• This reply was modified 7 years, 9 months ago by yongsua.