Dear hungryhamster:

I understand that everyone makes mistakes and so do you. He is allowed mistakes too, but dishonesty is not a mistake. With your anxiety, you have to be involved with an honest man, or not at all. You have to trust the man to tell you his truth: how he feels, what he needs, what he wants, and then you can negotiate and do a reasonable give-and-take. But without his honest input, how will you know …. anything? It is like being in the dark, guessing, wondering, and that is anxiety producing!

With anxiety, you need relationships that are clear, easy to understand. This was not clear or easy to understand. I wonder about the other guy you mentioned. Is he clear and easy to understand, I she honest in his communication with you?

anita