Dear Luli:

Reads to me that he likes you, that he enjoys your company, that he wants the relationship with you to continue as it is. And you like him more intensely than he likes you. You want a closer relationship than the one you have. You are more emotionally attached to him than he is to you.

In relationships, most often, the two parties are not equally as attached to each other. If the difference in attachment is too big, that is a problem. The difference here is a problem for you.

What to do? There is nothing you can do. You can’t make him like you more intensely. You can’t make him want a closer relationship with you. The more you try, the more you talk to him about wanting more, the less likely you are to succeed.

I suggest that in your heart, if you agree with my understanding, that you accept this reality. As sad as it is, for you. Stop hoping for MORE. Wanting more will not get you more. If more does happen it will not happen because you want more, or try for more. It will happen unrelated to your want and effort.

If you stop wanting and trying, it may give him the space to form a stronger attachment to him. Maybe.

anita