Dear Jamie:

You asked: “why are these anxious, angry feelings still lingering?”- to answer this, when did these feelings start- last summer or did they exist before the summer, to a lesser extent, maybe? How about before this relationship, before you met this man?

“Shouldn’t they be gone by now?”- feelings don’t follow the should-logic. They persist as long as they the message they carry wasn’t fully heard yet (hence, I asked the questions above, beginning the quest to look for that message).

“And am I making the right decision by deciding to work on my relationship rather than finding someone new to start a relationship with?”- let’s look for and find the message first, otherwise, you don’t learn what you need to learn now, a learning that will serve you well in deciding what to do next.

anita