Dear Em:

I hope you feel better long term, soon. You asked: ” Why is it when we break up with someone we always remember the good and not the reason we broke up with them in the first place”?-

Because when you lose the object of your attachment (ex boyfriend), you lose the safety in that attachment. When you do, you feel distress. When distressed the brain focuses on the memories of (relative) safety, the good times. It does so because it needs relief from the distress.

Your current life challenges:
1. The cats-
2. Your grandfather, still sick, I understand-
3. Your work situation: a rude boss and extra work-
4. Living alone-

Can you suggest solutions/ ways to cope with these four challenges?

anita