Dear Natalie:

You wrote: “My fiance refuses to let herself feel negative emotions… (she) refuses to even feel the slightest bit of negative emotion”- this is not possible. If only that was possible nobody will be feeling negative feelings. A person cannot “refuse” fear, hurt and sadness. It simply isn’t possible. Didn’t you witness her hurt, fear and sadness?

You wrote: “I’ve told her to break down and that it is perfectly okay”- that is irresponsible for you to tell her that because you can’t guarantee that she will be “perfectly okay” or even “okay”. (Fortunately, a person does not break down when given the invitation).

You wrote: “She won’t let herself become emotionally attached to people”- you mean other people, since she is about to marry you, correct?

anita