Dear J:

It is very, very difficult to live when you believe that you are inadequate, not as worthy as the next person. Living with this belief means suffering, every day. This is why “every day is a struggle.”

No wonder you want to escape this suffering.

What to do? Examine this belief, find out its origin- how did it come about, under what circumstances, then challenge it, and heal from the injury that happened to you, leading to the forming of this core-belief.

The all-or-nothing thinking, having to be perfect or nothing is worth doing, this is strongly tied to feeling inadequate. You distortedly think that only perfection will make you adequate. That is never the case. You not being perfect was never the problem.

Your thoughts/ feelings?

anita