That is very powerful to say the least. I’ve never thought of it in that way, but it makes sense. I didn’t even realized I was molested until I was much older, my early 20s. I would think about the situation but never felt like it was wrong, until I realized what it was. I never thought it had any effect on me until I saw some very vulnerable and uncontrollable things manifest through romantic relationships. I don’t remember being sad as a girl though. I don’t remember missing my father when my parents split or feeling bad about him touching me in that way. The most discomfort I remember was feeling was helplessness and sadness for my mother, with all her depression and financial stress.