Dear Lea:

You are welcome. To be clear: I am not suggesting that you should leave this marriage. You are considering leaving and I am here to help you explore the option, come up with thoughts and ideas as to “do I stay or leave?” (title of your thread). I enjoy exploring such things, and so, as long as you are willing, we will continue.

You stated a few times your belief that your husband lacks emotional depth. I don’t believe it is possible, that he lacks emotional depth. He found a manageable way to live his life with minimal distress, that is all.

You mentioned your mother telling you that you expect too much from life, from your marriage. Will you tell me more about this input from her, that you expect too much- when did she first express it, in what circumstances (in your childhood?)

anita