Dear Lea:

So you told your husband things like: We are missing an emotional connection. We are missing emotional intimacy. We live like roommates, not like husband and wife. We love each other but we are not in love.”

Remember I wrote to you a couple of posts ago that the lack of emotional connection with your husband is not his doing alone, but yours as well?

Such communications on your part as in my first two lines above are vague and so, I am not surprised your husband does not understand what you are saying.

You have to be specific, especially with a pragmatic man. Instead of saying something like We lack emotional connection, tell him: I feel sad and lonely. I want to tell you more of how I feel, and I need you to listen to me. Can you sit down with me on the sofa and listen to me?

anita