Dear Sarah Min:

You were indecisive. Now he is indecisive.

You did not commit a sin when you were indecisive, and it will be okay if you will be indecisive again. Try to be as calm as you can be, it will benefit you and is best for your own chances of having a loving relationship with him.

In your intense need to show him that you are serious and decisive about him, you are likely to push him away. It is balance that is required, not the other extreme. If you were … extremely indecisive before, the solution is not to be extremely decisive now. The solution is to be Flexibly Decisive now. Flexible decisiveness would be to let him know, in a calm manner, how strongly you feel about him and at the same time, for as long as he is indecisive about you, sleep separately.

This is not punishing him (sleeping separately), and it is not pressuring him, it is an act of Flexible/ Balanced Decisiveness. You show him that way, that you respect yourself as well as respect him.

You let him know that it is okay for him to be indecisive, and that you are willing to wait, calmly, in your own bed.

anita