Dear Mia:

“Unless, I get rid of that ‘my mother’s voice in my head”- correct.

Not easy or simple, takes time. Competent psychotherapy may be necessary to start you in the process of doing just that. At some time in this process you will be able to detect her thoughts (her values, her beliefs). At some time you will discover YOUR values, your beliefs. And then you will replace her… with you.

It is not about getting rid of judgment (your last words)- it is about getting rid of HER judgment and replacing it with yours, your evaluation, your standards, your requirements, and so on.

anita