Hi Anita,

So i eventually sent the message yesterday to this ex and she did respond understanding but also listed how she wanted to build things etc. By this point i had to make a decision and told her i just needed time to work on myself rather than saying there was someine else. Feel a bit guilty but i know this other person is a better match to my values and is a better prospect all round. I feel a bit silly going back to this ex and then 2 weeks later ending things but i didn’t really feel the same and i suppose we learn through experience as its the first time I’ve tried going back to an ex. I just didnt feel i could trust her having been so vague about what she wanted and felt she would likely break me again.

A lesson from a quote i once read “never go back to what broke you”. Thanks for your support anita and hopefully time will tell if i made the right call. Right now it feels so.