Dear Jennifer:

I see. Your father is the one who shared with you his financial burden. (Too bad your mother used the equity of the house he too owned, without his knowledge or agreement- I wonder if she faked his signature..).

You were in a store with your father and asked for a toothbrush, then your father told you that you are going to lose the house. Interesting, how you remember asking for a toothbrush: I believe you remember that because what he told you next (losing the house) caused you great distress and that distress glued asking for the toothbrush into your memory.

I didn’t know that that “it” meant when I asked you above. I read your answer: maybe that “complacency or contentment, laziness or gratitude” is possible for others because they felt safer as children. Maybe “it” is safety?

Why was your brother violent; is he your only sibling and how is he now?

anita