Hi Sassypants,

You said: “he is the person that put us here.”

It seems to me that you have a choice. You can be “right” or you can be in relationship. If you want this relationship to work, you probably will have to look at what was not working prior to the incident, and own your role while he has to own his role.

I am NOT saying that you have any responsibility for his actions. You are only responsible for your actions.

Something was breaking down in your relationship before he did the actions of contacting his ex. You were delving into it with this: “Some insight as to why he did it…. I didn’t make him feel wanted. He mistakens my strong independence as that I care less. ”

You could discard him if you so choose. But if you want this relationship to survive and thrive, I think you and he will have to talk and learn and understand everything that was going on with him at the time, and everything going on with you at the time. All people make sense all of the time. If you understand his sense, and he understands your sense, you can probably get through this.

Craig