You may be too late for D., girlHenry, but you’re just in time for me! I was ghosted in March by a man I’ve been seeing for 9+ years, and I was searching for grieving groups that had a place for people you and me. They’re hard to find! Then I found tinybuddha.com and saw this thread. I was so happy to see that you had posted recently because of the similar length of our relationships and the crazy irony that my love left me shortly before my birthday, as well.

I too wonder how D. is doing; but how are you doing? I’m struggling–I feel like an emotional ping-pong ball. Being older, I have less temptation to try to force answers, as life has told me that there are, most likely,  none that would really satisfy me. After all, what I really want is the ghosting never to have happened. But it has, and it must be accepted, however confusing and heart breaking.

If you’d like to have a dialogue with me, maybe we can help one another. Talking helps as well as anything else I’ve found–other than therapy, I guess, or a deep belief in a higher power which I, unfortunately, don’t have.

Whether we “talk” or don’t, I wish you the best of luck on this difficult journey.